Adreanna, I loved this, thank you. I was recently at a family event and a few things were said that a year ago would have caused me to respond defensively but I wasn't only non-reactive, I wasn't so internally bothered/ spent hours ruminating on what was said. It was a comforting reminder of the power of simply being connected to my own practice.
FAMILY. 😅 Isn’t it so nice to have these moments of witnessing how our practice is germinating within us? I find that because it’s so subtle and focused on the long game, that it’s really nice to get these windows into the “proof” from time to time. Especially in relationships. So great that you’re on Substack! 🌺
Being from an older generation, Adreanna, I confess that this was the first time I have listened to a Bjork song on YouTube. My teenage me was sixties music - Beatles, Rolling Stones and Motown - although I think Beatles particularly offered the same message about relationships...The Long and Winding Road, for example. Thank you for your important and sustaining words about relationships that come at just the right time...after an argument with my husband and another with a business partner. Both blips on my emotional landscape but you remind me to look at them as opportunities to practice, not to pull away. And for that I am grateful.
And thank you Cecilia for reminding me of “The Long and Winding Road” which inspired me to go back and actually take a close listen to it. Timeless beauty. I’m so glad these words landed with you at just the right time. 🌺
Hi Adreanna, this is my very first time reading a The Laundry post after being subbed for so long. I want to say that this came into my life at the right time. I had friction with a close friend and it served me to better myself and practice. That was resolved but I’ve friction with other friends for a while now and just recently decided to set distance between us because it was too much for me to constantly let go. Maybe I wasn’t practicing enough, or I need to regain strength. I know I took the risk of them wanting to not see me again the same way but sometimes our practice may not be sufficient when we don’t have the tools or the practice of the practice. And taking refuge and going into our caves does revitalize us for when we go out and face the friction again. Just something I wanted to share. Thank you! Your post was beautiful!
Azul! Thank you for reading and thank you for your words. As courageous as it is to lean into the friction of relationships, I think there’s also a lot of courage in trusting that sometimes it’s too much work to always be the one who is constantly “letting go”. A relationship takes two. It’s up to us to understand how much of it we’re emotionally able to carry before it starts to injure us. How great that you trust your instincts to create some space. 🌺
SO compelled.. to say something, but I don’t know what…maybe sometimes the best thing we might say .. is thank you .. or nothing at all. Power in both it seems? ((Brilliant))
I couldn’t agree more. If my words moved you to both gratitude and silence I will take that as the highest compliment of all and send it right back to you.
Adreanna, I loved this, thank you. I was recently at a family event and a few things were said that a year ago would have caused me to respond defensively but I wasn't only non-reactive, I wasn't so internally bothered/ spent hours ruminating on what was said. It was a comforting reminder of the power of simply being connected to my own practice.
FAMILY. 😅 Isn’t it so nice to have these moments of witnessing how our practice is germinating within us? I find that because it’s so subtle and focused on the long game, that it’s really nice to get these windows into the “proof” from time to time. Especially in relationships. So great that you’re on Substack! 🌺
This is so heartfelt! And potatoes! 🥔
POTATOES. ♥️
We are all just those dirty potatoes.
Being from an older generation, Adreanna, I confess that this was the first time I have listened to a Bjork song on YouTube. My teenage me was sixties music - Beatles, Rolling Stones and Motown - although I think Beatles particularly offered the same message about relationships...The Long and Winding Road, for example. Thank you for your important and sustaining words about relationships that come at just the right time...after an argument with my husband and another with a business partner. Both blips on my emotional landscape but you remind me to look at them as opportunities to practice, not to pull away. And for that I am grateful.
Awesome
And thank you Cecilia for reminding me of “The Long and Winding Road” which inspired me to go back and actually take a close listen to it. Timeless beauty. I’m so glad these words landed with you at just the right time. 🌺
Hi Adreanna, this is my very first time reading a The Laundry post after being subbed for so long. I want to say that this came into my life at the right time. I had friction with a close friend and it served me to better myself and practice. That was resolved but I’ve friction with other friends for a while now and just recently decided to set distance between us because it was too much for me to constantly let go. Maybe I wasn’t practicing enough, or I need to regain strength. I know I took the risk of them wanting to not see me again the same way but sometimes our practice may not be sufficient when we don’t have the tools or the practice of the practice. And taking refuge and going into our caves does revitalize us for when we go out and face the friction again. Just something I wanted to share. Thank you! Your post was beautiful!
Azul! Thank you for reading and thank you for your words. As courageous as it is to lean into the friction of relationships, I think there’s also a lot of courage in trusting that sometimes it’s too much work to always be the one who is constantly “letting go”. A relationship takes two. It’s up to us to understand how much of it we’re emotionally able to carry before it starts to injure us. How great that you trust your instincts to create some space. 🌺
I’ve read this 4 times in a row - I feel
SO compelled.. to say something, but I don’t know what…maybe sometimes the best thing we might say .. is thank you .. or nothing at all. Power in both it seems? ((Brilliant))
I couldn’t agree more. If my words moved you to both gratitude and silence I will take that as the highest compliment of all and send it right back to you.
Thank you.
[silence] 💛